Indus Ladies Contest 2013 ---Empowered Women and Increasing Divorce Rates – Related?



The life varies from family to family and status to status, region to region and gender to gender era to era make society..The time is changing the life my grandmother has seen is different from what I am seeing ...
Moving to the era where girls are married before puberty and do all household chores, babies without voice, opinion. or choice..she live the same schedule with the added help of co-sister  or until daughter in law  .She cannot eat ,study,go out ,talk to husband publicly.  goose-fleshy imagination...the other side of coin is may be it's needed that we are under the British rule if we do not follow women must be spoiled ..
Now, we are in 21st century girls are there in almost every field ..the basic structure of family was same where men avoid household chores or ask  wife for her needs..but as the women is literate and can have a planned family.Also,they accept the daughter and teach them grow them well ..she is getting good jobs and is trying to manage both .
The main jobs are  teaching jobs where the balancing of  life seems easy the joint family is advantage .Few problems arise still family needs to be joint with a  spark of silent war of working and non working women of the house .
Match making want  is good earned well educated and versatile ... many women did it but never earn respect ,love .Fights arguments are building up day by day because of time,cooking,household chores above all male ego jealousy when wife does wonderful in the job or  doubt,suspicious, dress and money ..... she is questioned ,disrespected make fun of and many times she was physically hurt mentally hurt....
The time technique grow and finally the era of globalization cross all the limit and can travel the world  .Splits home increase .The luxury life is good movies outing fun trips are main part . Ignorance of in laws and  growth of  kids are questioned .In this life the women is blending in the society but also the frustration and matching the male ego is disturbing and increase the problems ..........
Twenty  years, back these are the problem that just sprouting.. It is always difficult for an Indian men to accept the new change he has seen this for ages from the ideals of the family like father and grand father also women ( the follower and  cannot stop  male  kids bounded  ) ...let  stand against the women.The male is abuse of being henpecked and being fun by own siblings and friend sometimes by the society. I should say the men and women war is won by the men by letting two women fight  and set the drama .One is the puppet of other and both are fighting for the unintended thing forgot that "WE ARE MARRIED TO MAKE A HAPPY FAMILY" ..Now women get the voice and thought so it is difficult for her to bear everything and anything .The accusation the burden,wants even after doing all she is tested every second final result at times is  divorce  .
There are many women who are brutally beaten,abused and killed I feel divorce is better then all that.I do not say it is a fight of a day it is a fight of getting respect and love .We are married to make families not the wresting-ling ring for the tantrums ,fights ,arguments and  politics 
The portrait of women is always like the wet sand is always distorted before it should take a shape.We are not in a race we are the mutual and must  needed part of each other  biologically different and making families , transmitting many thing to future kids.. .....
Divorce is personal stuff but it's increase is not good for society .The lives of two individuals both are responsible for it more or less...one family is broken... 
"Women try everything but men lag behind and make him in the frog of pond..when frog come out all will be well......"


Enjoy and be n feel special
Jiyo Life Bindas JLB
Love Ritu

Note:my writing is my personal opinion  It do not reflect anyone's personal life or relation or anything.If it does it is purely coincidental. Neither to hurt anyone's feelings"   .








Comments

Popular Posts